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How do you start over after losing your spouse?
I have found myself having to start over after losing my husband of nearly 38 years. I'm too old to know how to begin a new life and too young to hope for a quick death. (of this flesh body, not of my soul of course) Now I feel a bit lost as to what I should do with my life? I find comfort in God's words. I feel guilty when I think about starting life with another man. I never cheated and when I think of having a life with someone else I feel like I'm cheating on a man who is no longer here on Earth. I know that probably sounds, well, stupid. But none the less, here I am pouring out my heart looking for answers. Maybe there is no answer. I'm lost and have no idea how to be found? I guess I shouldn't bother others with my silly problems. But what do I have to lose? Maybe God led me here for good reason?
commonsensebeliever
My Bible study teacher is 71, diagnosed with Parkinson's disease and lost her husband 4 years ago after 38 years together. I have only known her for 2 years and she has been the most influential person I have ever had in my life. She asked Father God, "What now" and He answered in a big way. She is such an honest and transparent person, and though I have watched her age and become frailer physically, she mentors 19 women, is known as "the Midwife", as she helps birth new ministries in others, teaches weekly and leads a group of us ministering in deliverance and inner healing(not hokey stuff, but Biblically based and balanced psychologically...I am a retired psych nurse!) May I add that I am one of the youngest in this group at age 63! I am disabled and was abandoned by my "Christian" husband after 26 years of marriage and involvement in lay ministry, left homeless and destitute and barely surviving after two major traumatic brain injuries! If God can use me, He can use anyone!!!! Now is YOUR time to shine for Jesus, not being tied to raising children, caring for a husband, working a career, etc. Dive in with abandon, you got lots of wisdom to share, especially with younger women!!!!
Aug 12, 2022
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Feb 29
Moshe Mayim
LuLu, I am facing the same thing after 32 years, she is still alive and got a good report at the end of her chemo but going forward, she is on her own because they stopped the drugs because after several years they no longer work. I have panic attacks sometimes just thinking about it. It is natural to not want to be alone but depending on how long it has been, you should give it some time so that you will not be vulnerable. There are so many deceptive people out there. I listen to scripture a lot and always have and it takes my mind off of the fears and worries while I am listening. Gospel of John is one of my favorites and the King James Version with Alexander Scourby is a true blessing. he has an english accent and a great actor's voice. He did these recordings back in the 1940's I believe and they have a soft gentle but firm delivery. Here is a link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=az3iXhXglfY This room has a 24/7 chat room and maybe sometime we can chat and talk some bible which I always love to do. Hope this comforts you. Moshe
Feb 29